MS. SILKY

Would you say closure is needed to forgive? First and foremost lets define closure. Closure is an act or a process of closing something Do I think closure is needed in order for the process of forgiveness to take place. No, I don't. Forgiveness is a personal matter. If you don't forgive, you allow yourself to be angry, bitter and resentful towards another person. The thing about forgiveness is that you the one who suffers and the person probably does not think about you no more. The question is ; do you care so much about yourself? If you do then you need to realize that no one is perfect, your ex is not perfect and either are you. You need to understand that everyone has been in a relationship and got hurt. You need to leave it in the past and learn from it. I personally think that people who want closure use that as an excuse to meet their exes. I realized that back then when I longed to talk to my ex, I would tell myself man.... I need closure. I needed so badly  

I have been thinking back and saying 2015 was a bad year. It was difficult, it was painful. However, when I look at the totality of the year, when putting everything in context, it’s been a wonderful year. The 365 terrific days far outweigh the one bad day. That day won’t fade away though. I and my sister were just chilling when I got a call from my paternal aunt who asked that we meet. “Your dad, mum, aunt and uncle were involved in a car accident”, she said.  Oh you have no idea how painful that was. None of us were mentally prepared to hear that. Only my mother survived but she’s still fighting for her life to date. Back to what I want to address.  I want people to understand the importance of pulling over when they see an ambulance coming from behind them. I remember a few days after the accident, we called MRI to transport my mum from my home village to Gaborone. We were driving down the road and I’m pretty sure that people caught a glimpse of flashing lights in their re